Intended Parents may wish to consider these options:

1. Educate yourself about the surrogacy process. There are many resources to help understand the process including surrogacy agencies, surrogacy attorneys and support groups.
   
2. Consider your family formation options in the surrogacy space. There are gestational surrogacy options, as well as traditional ones. Each type has its own benefits and drawbacks and it is important to understand the difference before making a decision.
   
3. Find a competent surrogacy agency to help you understand your options and guide you through the process.
   
4. Create a plan outlining your goals. If you need financial assistance to help fulfill your wishes, apply for grants and seek other financial resources.

Our Intended Parent services include:

·         Obtaining background screening of gestational surrogate candidates

·         Obtaining medical records of gestational surrogate candidates

·         Educating gestational surrogate candidates about the surrogacy landscape

·         Providing informational and educational resources to the gestational surrogate candidates

·         Providing informational and educational resources to the intended parents

·         Guiding intended parents to have realistic expectations about the surrogacy relationship both before a pregnancy is established and as pregnancy proceeds to birth.

·         Guiding intended parents to have realistic expectations about the surrogacy relationship both before a pregnancy is established and as pregnancy proceeds to birth

·         Advertising and marketing for a gestational surrogate who fits your profile.

·         Participating in getting-to-know-you meetings between intended parents and gestational surrogates to facilitate a healthy, supportive relationship to last the entire surrogacy journey.

·         Providing guidance to intended parents regarding how to establish and maintain a rapport and supportive relationship with their gestational surrogate.

·         Providing resource referrals, including psych screeners, fertility clinics, attorneys, escrow companies, and insurance providers

Heart of Surrogacy, LLC can help you explore your options and get the answers you need. To make an appointment, call (813) 331-5601 or fill out our contact form

Building a family through surrogacy can be a very exciting but very emotional process at the same time. We had the opportunity to go over some questions with one of our intended parents to understand their surrogacy journey and to learn more from their perspective.

When you found out Autumn was going to be your gestational carrier, how did you feel?

We were elated, but hesitant at first, we thought, and still do that she is too good to be true. Autumn is our second surrogate, our first one was not comfortable carrying through COVID times and we were hesitant at first, scared she would come to the same conclusion. However, once we got to know Autumn, we quickly discovered she was meant for us, we were elated. She has been wonderful in these uncertain times, and we couldn’t imagine being on this journey with anyone else but her.

What has been the best part of the journey so far?

January 31, 2021, when Autumn and I did our first (two) pregnancy tests, followed by February 3rd, 2021 when we had our first confirmation with my husband of a heartbeat. That day is also significant because it’s the birthday of the person who saved my life when I went into cardiac arrest at the age of 8. The best part of the journey is knowing that the baby will be here in October or late September.

You’ve become friends with Autumn through this process. What would you say are her best characteristics? 

Autumn is selfless, often pointing out that she is the “oven” and it’s not her baby. She goes out of her way to make sure I know I’m the mom and respects the decisions we make for the baby. She has a big heart and is very respectful.

Tell us a little about the first doctor’s appointment you and your husband were able to attend. 

It was emotional and so special, as we had only been able to attend the prior appointments via Zoom, while with the IVF clinic. When we transferred to the OBGYN, the doctor had learned we had not been to an appointment yet and scheduled an ultrasound just so we could see our baby on the ultrasound for the first time during the appointment.

What does Autumn and her willingness to become your gestational carrier mean to you? 

There are no words, only a flood of emotions and gratitude. Due to my medical history (heart transplant at age 8, followed by lifetime antirejection medicines), I am not able to safely carry a baby without risk to my life and compromising the health of the baby who would be subject to the harsh medications I take to prevent organ rejection,

How has your relationship with Autumn developed through this process? 

We talk every week, sometimes more than once a week, and we’re always updating each other on the size of the baby, and the dos and don’ts for that week that come with a weekly email reminder… like the week we were as big as a Zesty Zucchini. We also talk about other things, her kids, their sports, and how excited we both are in this process.  Autumn is welcome in our lives for as long as she wants, it’s her choice. Something I wasn’t sure I wanted when we first began our journey 5 years ago.

From an Intended Parent viewpoint, what would you like other potential gestational surrogates to know? 

What you are providing is a selfless gift. You could be the person that changes the world for that family. Your willingness to help someone build their family is a testament to your big heart. What you are providing for them will change their world. 

Heart of Surrogacy, LLC can help you explore your options and get the answers you need. To make an appointment, call (813) 331-5601

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More than 60 million women in the United States are living with a heart condition.

In fact, heart disease is the leading cause of death for women,  claiming the lives of one out of every five. Heart disease can be especially dangerous during pregnancy, and patients with a heart condition may want to explore surrogacy as a family formation option.  

Heart of Surrogacy, LLC can help you explore your options and get the answers you need to make an informed decision. To make an appointment, call (813) 331-5601

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In general, donation contracts seem straight forward – the donors and recipients are matched, often through an agency or clinic, and agree generally to the anticipated terms of the contract. So, why should they undergo psychological evaluations, and should all parties be represented by counsel?

Regardless of whether the parties know one another or the contract is anonymous, donations have significant legal consequence and thus numerous factors for consideration in entering into a donation contract. It is important that psychological evaluations be completed to answer the parties’ questions and help them think through circumstances that could arise as a result of a donation ranging from recognition of the potential existence of a child they may not meet or have a relationship with, what happens in the event a party to the contract passes before or after a pregnancy occurs, how any surplus of the donation should be handled, etc.

Additionally, the contracts are typically very lengthy and contain detailed provisions, and the legal ramifications of a breach of contract are often substantial. It is imperative that the parties understand thoroughly all representations and warranties they are making in the contract, in addition to all other terms of the contract. An experienced attorney will take the time to go through each provision of the contract with their respective client(s) to ensure there is a complete understanding of the provisions and the parties are knowingly and voluntarily entering into the agreement. The Academy of Adoption & Assisted Reproduction Attorneys finds the question of legal representation so important that the Academy’s Ethics Code requires that any Fellow representing a party to a contract ensure the other party likewise is represented by separate counsel, except in very limited circumstances. For legal consult please visit Tate Healey Webster webpage

If you are considering surrogacy, it is essential to do your research, educate yourself on the process, and work with trusted professionals who can support you throughout the journey. At Heart of Surrogacy, LLC, we are dedicated to providing accurate information and resources as we support you throughout your surrogacy journey. For more information, contact Heart of Surrogacy, LLC by phone at 813-280-6500 or visit our webpage. 

Being a surrogate mother is a fulfilling yet often emotional journey that profoundly impacts the entire family. It requires a great deal of love, sacrifice, and support from all involved, including your children. While understanding what surrogacy entails may vary drastically depending on the ages and comprehension levels of your children, it is important to involve them in the process. Talking to your kids about being a surrogate mother is crucial when embarking on this journey together. 

We understand that talking to your children about surrogacy can be challenging. However, there are several things to keep in mind that will encourage honest and open conversations surrounding your surrogate pregnancy. 

Start Early

It is best to start talking to your children about your surrogacy journey as early as possible. This will give them time to understand what is happening and ask questions. You can begin by explaining the basics of surrogacy and answering any questions they may have. Then, as the process progresses, you can give them more details and involve them in the journey. 

Age Appropriate Language

Children of different ages will understand and respond to the surrogacy process differently. When talking to your children, be sure to use language that is appropriate for their age and level of understanding. Younger children may need simple, straightforward explanations, while older children may be ready for more complex details. 

For example, when talking to a younger child, you may say, “Sometimes a family can’t grow a baby on their own, and they need the help of another Mommy. I am helping another family grow their baby. Then when the baby is strong enough to come out, I will give them back to their parents.”

Encourage Questions

Children may have a lot of questions about surrogacy, and it is important to encourage them to ask. Answering their questions and addressing any concerns they may have can help them feel more comfortable and involved in the process. If they are too young to ask questions, you can start by asking them if they have any questions or concerns.

Emphasize Love

Throughout the surrogacy journey, it is important to emphasize the love that your family has for each other and the baby you are carrying. Explain to your children that this baby will be a special part of another family and that you are carrying it with love and care.

Be Honest

Children are perceptive and will sense if something is not right. Be honest about the surrogacy process and any challenges that may come with it. Explain that there may be some challenges along the way and that you may need some extra support. By being honest, you can help your children feel more prepared for the changes that come with surrogacy.

Make it a Positive Experience

Surrogacy can be an exciting and fulfilling journey, and it is important to make it a positive experience for your children. Encourage them to be involved in the process, for example, by helping you prepare for the baby’s arrival or by choosing a special gift for the baby. Making the journey a positive experience for your children can help them feel more connected to the surrogacy process and the baby you are carrying.

Be Patient

Children may need time to process the changes that come with surrogacy. Be patient with them and continue to have open and honest conversations as they adjust to the new reality.

Utilize Resources 

Many resources are available to help parents talk to their children about surrogacy. Children’s books are a great tool and a fun way to talk about and normalize the surrogacy journey. A list of top surrogacy children’s books can be found here.

Being a surrogate is a unique and life-changing journey that affects the entire family. Effectively talking to your children about your surrogacy journey is essential in involving them in the process and preparing them for the changes that come with it. The more involved and prepared they are, the smoother the journey and transition will be for everyone. 

At Heart of Surrogacy, LLC we are not only dedicated to our surrogate mothers and intended parents but also to their families. For more information, resources, and support, contact Heart of Surrogacy, LLC by phone at 813-280-6500 or visit our webpage. We are here for you every step of the way.

Surrogacy is often misunderstood, leading to confusion and stereotypes about the process and those involved. From misconceptions and myths about the motivations of surrogates to misunderstandings about the legal and emotional complexities of surrogacy, it’s essential to separate fact from fiction when it comes to this important aspect of family building. Addressing surrogacy myths and the truth behind them is critical to promoting a more accurate understanding of surrogacy and reducing the stigma surrounding it. The staff at Heart of Surrogacy, LLC are well informed and happy to answer any questions surrounding myths and misconceptions around surrogacy. 

Myth: Surrogacy is only for couples struggling with infertility.

Surrogacy is not just for couples who cannot conceive, but it is also an option for single parents, same-sex couples, and individuals who want to start or grow their families. While infertility is a common reason for surrogacy, it is not the only reason. Some individuals choose surrogacy as a way to experience parenthood, while others may have medical reasons that make it challenging or impossible to carry a pregnancy.

Myth: Surrogacy is expensive and only for the wealthy.

While surrogacy can be an expensive process, it is not just for the wealthy. There are many options for funding surrogacy, including grants, loans, and insurance coverage, which can make it more accessible for individuals and families with a wide range of financial backgrounds. Additionally, many surrogacy agencies offer a variety of services and resources to help make the process more affordable and accessible. Information on financial resources and assistance can be found here. 

Myth: Surrogates are only in it for the money.

While the surrogate mother does receive compensation for their services, it is not the only reason they choose to be a surrogate. Many surrogates are motivated by a desire to help families grow and a love for pregnancy and childbirth. For some surrogates, surrogacy is a way to give back to their communities, and for others, it is a way to make a difference in the lives of others.

Myth: Surrogates have no connection to the baby they carry.

Surrogates do form a connection with the baby they carry and the intended parents they help. However, they understand the importance of separating their emotional attachment to the baby and the need to ensure that the baby is safe and healthy. Surrogates are trained and supported throughout the surrogacy process to help them maintain healthy boundaries and to ensure that the baby is well cared for.

Myth: Surrogacy is unethical or morally wrong.

Surrogacy is a legal and ethical option for families who want to grow their families. It is governed by strict legal and medical guidelines, where surrogates and intended parents are thoroughly screened to ensure the process is safe and ethical. Additionally, surrogacy can be a way to bring love and joy into the world, and it is a way for individuals and families to experience the joys of parenthood.

Breaking Down the Myths

Surrogacy is a complex and personal journey that can involve a wide range of emotions and experiences. By breaking down the myths and misconceptions surrounding surrogacy, we can help to make the process more accessible and understandable. The truth behind surrogacy is that it is a way for individuals and families to grow their families and experience the joys of parenthood.

If you are considering surrogacy, it is essential to do your research, educate yourself on the process, and work with trusted professionals who can support you throughout the journey. At Heart of Surrogacy, LLC, we are dedicated to providing accurate information and resources as we support you throughout your surrogacy journey. For more information, contact Heart of Surrogacy, LLC by phone at 813-280-6500 or visit our webpage. 

With online platforms growing, finding a gestational surrogate has never been easier. The internet has allowed intended parents to choose between group forums, like Facebook groups or surrogacy agencies, to start their families.

But which path is right for you?

Is one option safer than the other?

If you’ve been asking, “Where Should I Find My Gestational Carrier?” Heart of Surrogacy has answers. We explain the options and possible risks you might encounter when finding a gestational carrier through different online methods.

Four Main Places to Find a Surrogate

Whether in the research phase or sold on surrogacy, you should know there are different ways to find a surrogate. The four main ways to find a surrogate are:

1. Hiring through a surrogacy agency
2. Paying a freelance surrogate recruiter
3. Seeking an independent surrogate (e.g., matching groups, Facebook, etc.)
4. Asking your network of family and friends

The easiest way to find a surrogate or gestational carrier is through a surrogacy agency. There are many agencies to choose from online, all ranging in price. A somewhat less expensive option is paying a freelance surrogate recruiter. A freelance surrogate recruiter is not part of an agency, though they usually have agency experience.

You can also search for a surrogate independently through social media platforms like Facebook. Independent surrogacy will have a longer wait than other methods. Lastly, reaching out to family and friends and requesting their advice on where to find a good surrogate is yet another option. Your network will likely point you to one of the other three options.

Facebook Groups versus Surrogacy Agency

Surrogacy through online Facebook groups is becoming increasingly popular because of their eye-catching costs. But are Facebook groups safe, or is it still best to shop for surrogates through a reputable agency?

At first, finding a surrogate independently through a Facebook group may appear less expensive or more immediate; however, the opposite may be true. It’s easy to let excitement and determination blind you to the red flags that come with finding solutions on your own.

Some of the issues that may arise from shopping independently through Facebook groups for surrogates are:

• Risk of fraud and misrepresentation
• Ineligible prospective surrogates
• Longer wait times
• Problems with coordination and communication

Searching for a surrogate through Facebook groups has a higher chance of fraud and misrepresentation versus going through a well-known surrogate agency. It’s too simple for people to pose as something or someone they are not. But through a surrogacy agency, there is a safety net to protect intended parents from scams.

Surrogacy Agency Safeguards to Protect You

All surrogates must go through a process before they can become a surrogate. They must be physiologically and medically approved by a professional, and many possible surrogate mothers found on Facebook have yet to be screened. This extends the time frame an intended parent must wait before starting their surrogate journey.

With that said, if you can be patient and are okay with a more hands-on approach to communicating, finding a surrogate through Facebook groups is still an option. Extra steps will have to happen to ensure you are not part of a scam.

Going through a surrogacy agency may be the better option if you’d rather be cautious and reduce or remove the worry of fraud.

A surrogacy agency tends to be more costly, but all services are included and have a legal safety net. Many feel they are paying for the value of security and ease. Surrogacy agencies also have a faster turnaround because their surrogates have already undergone a screening process and background check. Since agencies involve more than one employee, they often have more resources, making the process for intended parents much more effortless.

Finding a Gestational Surrogate, that’s Right for You

Although there are a few ways to find a gestational carrier for surrogacy, some ways are better than others. Less expensive options may not be as safe as going through an agency specializing in surrogacy. At Heart of Surrogacy, LLC, we want to inform you of your options and support you on your path to becoming a parent. Contact Heart of Surrogacy by phone at 813-280-6500 or through email at [email protected].